How to be the parent your child needs: learn from ACE test

We all want to protect our children, but do we know what truly hurts them?

The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) test shows that certain childhood stresses can shape a child’s future health and mental well-being. This is the test psychologists use in the future to assess the mental health of your child when they become an adult.

What are ACEs?

1. Abuse (emotional, physical, sexual)

2. Neglect (emotional, physical)

3. Household dysfunction (violence, substance abuse, mental illness, divorce, incarceration)

ACE Questions are based on below:

– Do I speak to my child with respect, even when I’m frustrated?

– Do I ensure my child feels safe at home every day?

– Is my child protected from witnessing violence or harsh conflicts at home?

– Am I managing my own stress, substance use, and mental health to protect my child’s emotional space?

– If the family is separating, am I prioritizing stability and reassurance for my child?

What You Can Do Today:

– Pause before reacting, use calm, clear discipline, not fear.

– Show consistent love, daily small moments matter.

– Seek support if you are struggling with stress, mental health, or addiction; getting help helps your child too.

– Talk to your child, listen without judgment.

– Create safe routines to build security and trust.

“Your calm presence today becomes your child’s safe place forever.”